February 14th is and was an exhilarating time for many to celebrate their love affair by giving and receiving gifts to express their love. But then, there are many who year after year are sad and depressed because of broken relationships caused by rejection and betrayal. It seems unbearable when they feel unloved, unfulfilled and lonely because their need to belong and feel loved is unmet. Consequently, Valentine’s Day was and is depressing for them. Since February 14th is past, what about now? How can you prepare for February 14, 2020?
Believe me, I understand. I can relate to those feelings in my past. I can even relate to not only feeling unloved but thinking maybe I will never experience true love and the fulfilling warmth of a loving relationship. However, that mindset changed when I came into the knowledge of who I am apart from the perception of others who cannot see me nor themselves as created in the image and likeness of God.
I have learned to look deep within and assess my feelings that are based on my “negative” childhood experiences and embrace the truth. My insecurities grew just as I did. Therefore, as an adult, the child in me longed for the security and significance that my absent biological father did not provide. Consequently, as an adult, I clung to a relationship with the expectations of a child, which another human being could not meet. He could not give me what I really needed—a love affair that satisfied my soul’s longing.
No doubt, many people are living their adult life as a child with childhood needs and expectations. Like a child, they are vulnerable and easily misled by the outward appearance while being showered with tangible items, and at the same time their soul is being damaged. Like a child, they are dependent upon the love of someone else to affirm them, care for them, provide for them and protect them, but they are paying the higher price in exchange.
Most definitely, Valentine’s Day is an excellent time to share and express love and appreciation for our loving relationships. However, can we flip the script? Can we take the time to look deep within ourselves and assess where we are in relationship with the Father? How is that love affair? Is your soul still yearning for something an individual cannot fulfill? Are you complete in Christ and your life is hidden in Him?
We are created for relationship—a love affair with God FIRST and in turn, He divinely connects us to relate with those who are assigned to our lives for a reason or season or even a lifetime. We are empowered to help each other reach our fullest potential and fulfill our God-given purpose. Now, that is agape love! God is love—the kind of love affair that is divinely inseparable.
As Christians, God is our Father. He desires to be a Father to all who will accept Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. Having God as our Father, assures us of His unconditional love. He is faithful to provide for us in abundance and protect us. More importantly, He assures us of eternal life. Having God as our Father, we are like children. We are covered with LOVE! He shields us from elements that will damage our soul and cause eternal damnation. No other human being can satisfy the hunger within or quench the thirst meant to be satisfied by God. There is nothing greater or better or more fulfilling than knowing and experiencing God’s agape love—sacrificial love, unconditional love.
“God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.” -1 John 4:16.
God's love covers all!
How can you prepare for February 14, 2020? Read Romans 10:9,10.
“If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. Because by believing in your heart that you are made right with God, and it is by openly declaring your faith that you are saved.”
When you do this, you will have peace with God and can experience a fulfilling loving relationship. It means trusting Christ’s unconditional love. Therefore, unless we have a relationship with Father God by faith in His Son, Valentine’s Days will come and go year after year and bring temporary satisfaction, and those who feel unloved, lonely and unfilled will be like little children peering out the window expecting to see Santa bringing Christmas gifts rather than knowing their gifts come from their parents.
I invite you to ponder these questions with me in relation to your love affair with God. And hopefully, you can answer as I did years ago.
Who can separate me from a Divine love affair? NO ONE!
Who is able to separate me from the love of Christ? NO ONE and NO-THING!!
And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39 New Living Translation (NLT)
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